In a recent LinkedIn post, “Smart People Never Make These Mistakes Twice,” Dr. Travis Bradberry, the co-author of the best-selling book Emotional Intelligence 2.0, reminds us that it is OK to make mistakes. How we handle those mistakes is what makes the difference between being able to learn from our mistakes and being destined to repeat the same ones over and over.
Dr. Bradberry says we approach mistakes one of two ways: with a fixed mind-set or a growth mind-set. With a fixed mind-set, we resign ourselves to the mistake, maybe even telling ourselves that it was inevitable because we aren’t good at something. With a growth mind-set, however, we acknowledge and accept our mistakes – even our biggest bonehead moves – and look at them as learning opportunities.
Simply put, those with a growth mind-set have the tools to recognize patterns and are willing to own up to their mistakes, putting them in a better position to learn from them. Those with a fixed mind-set prefer to ignore or dismiss mistakes, so they are doomed to repeat them.
Ready to learn from your mistakes? Here are 10 mistakes Dr. Bradberry says we all make, but that smart people only make once.
- Believing in something or someone that seems too good to be true.
- Repeating the same action and expecting a different result.
- Requiring instant gratification.
- Operating without a budget, personally and professionally.
- Failing to see, or consider, the big picture.
- Taking shortcuts and failing to prepare.
- Trying to be someone you’re not. Yes, this time your mom was right.
- Trying to please everyone.
- Assuming the role of victim.
- Trying to change someone else. You can only change yourself.
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Diana Albertson, CEO